Around this time last year, I thought I’d found a pretty perfect balance in all areas of my home, work and social life. My career with Keogh was continuing to evolve in a great direction… I’d even gone more than a year without biting my nails.
Then in March of 2019, a very important person in my life received a terrible medical diagnosis.
If there’s anything that will prompt you to give your priorities a long hard look, a loved one facing a trauma will do it. There are emotional shockwaves of the event obviously, but also on a practical level, there’s so much to do to support that person and their family, whom you both love and feel a sense of responsibility towards.
When an issue so important takes much of your focus, something has to give, and I saw that my goals and life as it was, weren’t in balance – particularly in my own home and on a wellness level.
I know that getting side-tracked is something we all experience. We think we have a good idea of where we’d like to head, then for various reasons (internal or external) we are waylaid on the journey. So, when do we know we’ve been derailed, and how do we get back on track?
“The river is constantly turning and bending and you never know where it’s going to go and where you’ll wind up. Following the bend in the river and staying on your own track path means that you are on the right track. Don’t let anyone deter you from that.”
– Eartha Kitt
We could make New Year’s resolutions, but according to businessinsider.com 80% of these fail in or before February. There are many reasons we can point to: a lack of support when commitment begins to waver, poor planning, triggering circumstances. When you look at it, a ‘resolution’ is rarely resolute.
Why? Well for a start New Year’s resolutions are a cliche: exercising more, saving money, losing weight. They all sound good on the surface, but they’re also vague and don’t take into account all the other shifts that have to occur to make them happen. Resolutions made in isolation of other factors in your life can be hard to achieve and easy to give up. So let’s ditch the term “resolution” and look at goals.
How can we make goals stick and motivate us to succeed in achieving them?
For me, it’s considering the big picture – and the perfect tool I like to use is Keogh’s Wisdom Wheel.
Instead of what issues do I have to resolve, the better question might be: “How would I like to see myself at the end of 2020?”
If you have a specific goal, ask, “What parts of the wisdom wheel does my goal most fit within?”
Is that actually an area that needs your attention, that you feel is out of balance? Try and pick goals that help balance all four quadrants